It’s complicated, yes that is an actual relationship status on Facebook. But has it always been complicated? Remember when you were 6, and you decided that Billy was going to be your boyfriend forever, and the two of you were nothing short of Cinderella and her prince? Well, unfortunately you grow up and your prince sometimes turns out to be a toad.
Love is so challenging and the labels that society insists on placing on it are nothing short of torture. I recall a time when you simply checked a box. Yes, No, and unfortunately, the elusive maybe were all the choice you needed. Ok, we all know the maybe sucked. I guess what I saying is that we value a label that has absolutely no barring on our happiness.
Society has lead us to develop this unhealthy correlation with our relationship status, and we have started to gage our self worth based on it. As the mother of a beautiful and radiant 10 year old daughter, I am quite aware that I do not what this correlation to continue on in my family.
My daughter is a daily witness that you don’t need another person in your life to make you happy. I am crazy happy. It is written all over my face, you can hear it in my laugh, and you can see it in my children. Happiness is contagious. I shine, and it has absolutely nothing to do with my relationship status.
I am not saying that being in a relationship is a poor decision, but allowing the title of being in one to consume you is. So which box would I check? “In a relationship” with myself, because there is no one I love more; and until you know and love yourself there will never be room for another. No matter how badly you would like to tag that new lover to your profile.